Screening - A Melbourne Escort Discusses Safety
It's pretty widely accepted that being an escort can be a dangerous job. Personally, I don't believe that's inherent in the job itself, but rather violence against women is a huge problem in our society and sex workers can be easy targets for those who wish to hurt people as we often meet out clients discreetly and alone.
I don't know about you, but I'm not the kind of person who wants to go to work fearing violence, rape or psychological abuse. While I know that 90% of you have no intention to cause harm at all, there is absolutely no way for me to distinguish which one out of 10 is going to cause me harm. People who intend to do harm are often masters at being polite and friendly in order to lure people into a false sense of security. That is why I screen EVERY client and that is why I refuse to see clients who do not comply with my screening measures. It is my insurance policy and assurance that if you act up, I can pursue you to the full extent of the law - thus deterring people who are out to do harm. No method of screening is 100% full proof, but the methods I use allow me to feel the most safe and comfortable when meeting new clients.
Look at it this way, if your daughter, sister, mother, partner or friend became an escort, and you had no way to stop them, would you not want them to be as safe as possible? Would you not want to ensure that measures could be taken to hold the client accountable if things did unexpectedly turn sour?
My policy has been designed with my psychology background to guide me in helping to make quick and accurate judgements about a person's character and so far it has been 100% accurate. It is both a compatibility and empathy test for each client. If you choose not to comply with or attempt to step around my comfort measures regarding screening, it signals to me that you find it acceptable to attempt to push boundaries - this is classic pattern behaviour, not simply innocent negotiation. Anyone who wants to negotiate on my comfort and safety does not respect me.
But I'm married! I need to be discreet!
Whether you're married or the prime minister, I don't care. Quite simply, you're not that important. I don't want to break up your marriage, and I don't want you to lose your job. I gain nothing from from that aside from a bad reputation and damage to my business. I have a vested interest in keeping your information private. It is for my eyes only.
If you believe your anonymity is more important than my safety and comfort then I can only assume you are lacking in respect and empathy for the risk I would be undertaking in providing my services to you. Whether that's due to ignorance or due to thinking that the risk is "just part of the job" and I should accept that and forgo my safety and humanity for money, I do not wish to spend time with you. I trust actions, not words and no matter how many times you tell me you're safe, polite etc until you follow protocol, I'm simply not interested. If you are concerned about the safety of your information in the digital world I have several safe guards to protect against the accidental leaking of your info. Your screening is stored on a password protected device. You are welcome to send your screening information via encrypted messaging services such as Signal or Wickr. I will download a copy of this info onto my secure device and delete it as soon as it is no longer required. If you are worried about the misuse of the information you have given, I can assure you that whatever minor damage can be done with just your full name and photo is not worth ruining my business and reputation for.
If anyone insists they must see your full ID containing your license number, expiry, date of birth and address, then you might have some cause for concern on the identity theft front, but a name and picture on an official ID poses no risk to you in that regard. And let's be honest here, you probably share a much more incriminating amount of information on your facebook timeline and unencrypted message apps and texts than your full name and picture to an escort with a legitimate reason to protect your privacy.
I will only share your personal information in the circumstance that you have harmed me in some way and your info would be passed on to law enforcement. This may include but is not limited to such things as:
Refusal of payment, fraudulent payment, reversal of payment transactions.
Trying to perform acts that have not been discussed and consented to.
Stealthing - deceptive removal or breaking of the condom.
Purposefully causing injury.
Continuing to push boundaries when I have said no.
Attempting to grope me or engage in any sexual activity while I am sleeping and therefore not able to consent during overnight and multi-day bookings.
Making threats, coercion, physical violence, harassment and stalking among many other common issues that women and sex workers especially face every day.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not a "feminazi" or a "man hater" and I don't think all clients are out to hurt sex workers. I love men and I love my clients as dear friends, but I'm simply a realist and prefer to approach these matters based on crime statistics, scientific and sociological evidence. If you do not intend to do any of these harmful things to me, complying with my screening practices poses no risk to you. It's very simple. If you are still concerned or a person in the public eye I am happy to sign an NDA which would become void should you endanger me or breach the terms of my consent in any of the ways I have mentioned above. At the end of the day, it's your choice as to whether you wish to spend time with me or not, but in order to do that you must comply with my requirements. I hope this reassures you and gives you a better idea of why I screen and why you should trust in the process. Kisses, Vx